Sunday, October 30, 2016

Rooted in Love

Response to http://trailbrazin.blogspot.com/2016/10/phenomenal-women-prompt-18.html



Rooted in Love
The Sisters of Saint Joseph
by Helen Sadler


This prompt was a wonderful challenge – how to come up with an inspiring woman I have never written about before.  The first person I was going to profile was my great-grandmother, Julianna.  But then I realized I have written about her several times before.  Then I thought of going deeper.  I thought of Frankenstein author Mary Shelley and her mother Mary Wollstencraft.  I thought of Gloria Steinem.  All good choices, and yes, inspiring.  But it was when I came to the influence of the Sisters of Saint Joseph in my life, tears filled my eyes.  Yes, I thought.  I have struck on the right thing. 

I was taught my nuns my entire life, but it wasn’t until I went to high school at Saint Joseph Academy on Rocky River Drive in Cleveland that I felt inspired by the nuns (save my second grade teacher, Sr. Flaviana.)  I will be the first to admit that during my time at SJA, I was not a fan of the nuns.  It is only in retrospect I realize what they gave me.

The Sisters of St. Joseph are much like their male counterparts, The Jesuits.  Their purpose lies largely in social justice issues.  Think of Sr. Helen Prejean of Dead Man Walking fame, working tirelessly to eliminate capital punishment. 

What the Sisters gave me, I realize now, was a way of looking at the world with integrity and love and faith.  I’m sure a lot of my idealism comes from those days sitting in Theology class studying The Holocaust or Marriage or Womanhood or Consciousness.  I remember long discussions and even disagreements over what the meaning of love really was.  Sr. Kathleen Carey insisted it could only be in the conscious actions we take, whereas a student names Sue swore her dog loved her.  A debate worth having?  Yes!  After all, the dog did run and greet her.  Wasn’t that love?

We did projects and papers on those doing good work in the world.  I clearly remember writing about Jane Fonda, probably a polarizing figure to some.  But my admiration of her was met with confirmation that she was a worthwhile human being, doing what she thought was right to bring peace and justice to the world.

Every year in late winter we went on retreat.  As freshman and sophomores, it was in-school retreats. As juniors and seniors we went to remote retreat locations.  This taught me the value of quiet, of time to just think about my spiritual life in a concentrated way.  It is something I have incorporated into my life ever since, as often as I can.

As seniors, the Sisters allowed us to study existentialism in literature.  It remains my favorite high school class to this day.  To sit and ponder the words of those who did not believe there was a God was a revelation to me.  It did the opposite of what some would be afraid it would do – it caused me to confirm my belief in God.  I could not tolerate a meaningless universe, even as I love and adore the writings of Albert Camus, and to some extent, Jean-Paul Sartre.  It was literature worth knowing.

As the years go by, I can see more and more clearly how the Congregation of Saint Joseph (as they are now known) deeply influenced me as a teacher.  I reject the role of reward and punishment in our current system because I know it isn’t needed if the focus is right.  We knew that the real reward in life was to be a good and decent person.  We had very few punishments at SJA – no detentions and very few suspensions. Yes, it might have been because it was a private school.  But I still believe it went beyond that.  I think there was a unifying factor in the teachings that created a safe space for us to experiment, yet find a place to land if needed.

I receive a publication from the Congregation quarterly, in which they write about the work they are currently doing.  This past summer, for example, they were instrumental in “Circle the City With Love,” an event held the day before the Republican National Convention started in Cleveland (see videos.) 






In the current issue of the magazine, they cover the Circle the City event, as well as the Community Builders of Peace Program (for students), their partnerships with groups around the country to preserve the earth, the launch of a human trafficking TraffickCam app, and questions that take us deeper into our relationship with God an others called “Re-examination of ‘Consciousness’” – something I have been using and find immensely inspiring.

Although I have lost interest in attending Masses or being part of a Catholic congregation, I am well aware that my life and my idealism and my entire way of being is rooted in the loving energy of the Sisters I have known, and the contributions they made to my life, even as I dismissed them or even actively rejected.  They knew that what they had to offer would take time to sink in. I try to remember that with my students.  Not all teachings can be heard and acted upon immediately. Some of them take a long time.

So, I dedicate this blog to the ones who made a difference to me – the phenomenal women of the Congregation of Saint Joseph.  Long may their work take root and grow in the world.





Wednesday, October 19, 2016

The Pastor's Wife by Annmarie Ferry


I am dedicating my response to this month’s prompt, Phenomenal Women , to Brenda Birch, the wife of the pastor of the church I attended during my middle and high school years.  I was privileged to know Brenda on a personal level not only through her role as “the pastor’s wife,” but also as her go-to babysitter for her three young, active boys. I saw firsthand the challenges and sacrifices of being a minister’s wife and witnessed the grace and strength with which Brenda handled it all. And, she always showed an unwavering faith, but also showed her vulnerability, making me realize that the qualities that are sometimes perceived as weaknesses hold more power that being closed off, aggressive, and harsh. She often told me I had a tender heart, and while sometimes I think it would be easier to have a hardened heart, I will always remember and cherish those words.  

The Pastor’s Wife 

Phenomenal women aren’t always bold and brazen.
There is also strength in being kind and gentle,
sensitive and sympathetic, soft-spoken and calm.

Not all phenomenal women announce their presence.
Some slide into your life right when you need them the most,
not knowing the impact they made, 
that they gave you confidence, validation, a sense of belonging,
a soft place to land when teenage emotions got the best of you. 

Phenomenal women can have tender hearts, 
compassionate souls, and the power to hold their tongues,
practicing diplomacy even when challenged and exasperated.

Not all phenomenal women realize how remarkable they are.
They selflessly sacrifice personal time for the benefit of others,
never making you feel like a burden,
always making you feel like you matter, that your feelings are important,
that you have a purpose and a place in a confusing and cruel world.

Phenomenal women aren’t measured by fleeting things—
financial success, social position, or fame, 
They are measured by the imprint they left on your heart.



Saturday, October 15, 2016

Phenomenal Women Prompt #18

Today started with me looking for inspiration in my new collection of Maya Angelou poems, hoping to find a mentor poem to inspire my own creation. I would call it a fail since my original purpose wasn't satisfied, but it was anything but.  I came across "Phenomenal Woman," and read it over and over. Then, I pulled up a Youtube video of the illustrious Maya reciting her own masterpiece. I instantly thought of my Trailbrazen sisters and shared it on our Facebook page.

Then, I added a line to a collaborative poem we have been crafting.  It turns out it will be the last line.   That suggestion, whether Helen knew it or not, was the ultimate compliment, just what I needed. It symbolizes the need for closure I have, and the steps I've been proactively taking to gain that closure.

And, Inspiration didn't stop there. A forgotten song from Sarah McLaughlin, "World on Fire," came across the radio today. I shared that with my writing sisters too. More brilliant writing by another phenomenal woman.

That brings me to this month's prompt:  Write about a phenomenal woman who has had a profound impact on your life. This extraordinary female can be dead or alive, famous or infamous, a writer, a singer, an actress, a politician, a teacher/professor, a colleague, a mentor, a friend, or anything at all.  Your tribute can be in any form you would like: song lyrics, poem, biography, etc. Here's the challenge: Find someone you haven't written about before, maybe do a little research to reveal things even you didn't know about her.

I can't wait to read about more phenomenal women written by, well, phenomenal women!