Revolution

 Response to Prompt #72 Serendipity Doo Dah

I. Evolution 

The revolution of my bike tires as I venture all over the west side of Cleveland, never limiting myself, never afraid, my bicycle never failing me, round and round various neighborhoods, round and round the wheels went with me on board, alone and free, unbound and exploring.

The revolution of the 78 vinyl on my little record player, Roy Rogers singing "Don't Fence Me In."

Receiving the Beatles single "Revolution" as a Secret Santa gift in 8th grade from a boy in my class. He somehow had paid attention and heard me mention I liked the song.

You say you want a revolution. Well, you know we all want to change the world.

Round and round the turntable spins, weaving musical dreams of love and progression and change.

This was standard fare when I was a teenager. There were dozens of songs with revolutionary messages. But the song that puzzled me the most was "The Revolution Will Not Be Televised," and each time it came on the FM radio I found myself straining to decipher the lyrics and stretching to figure out what they meant.

Everything goes round and round as we seek to find our place.

 

II. Education

 In the summer of 1993 I was profoundly changed when I read Revolution From Within: A Book of Self-Esteem by Gloria Steinem. Gloria, through the Feminist Movement, had already taught me how to see clearly about what I learned about the patriarchy and a woman's place in the world. But in this book she helped me see the undoing of childhood messages and trauma is just as important. We must not only unlearn, we must relearn in a healthier and more productive way to find our true self. 

There is a tendency to see Gloria as one who tore down some well-preserved institutions, and think that means she always had it all together. Coming to understand that her biggest hurdle was developing self-esteem within herself was revolutionizing to me, and came at a time when I was faced with a huge new challenge that would change the trajectory of my life.

Ten years later in my Literary Theory class, I learned that the revolution will not be televised because it happens in an instant, barriers crash down, but only after the work of many people, after one thing, then another, then another, has been set into place, the constant motion suddenly reaches a fruition. 

I still recall that moment with clarity. Aha!

Everything goes round and round as we seek to change the world.

 

III. Contribution

Here I sit at 66-years-old, still wondering what my contribution is. I have sought revolution within more than once in my life, and I seek to revolutionize through my work over and over again, wanting something more, hoping the pieces are falling into place, pondering, wondering, contemplating, and meditating.

How to make some long-held dream a reality? Is it happening?  Will I ever know if I will have made that kind of difference? 

It is an on-going question, and time seems to be running out. So, I revolve back to what I know.

I take a hint from the Beatles: seek to contribute, to be the change I want to see.

I take a hint from Gloria: work in positive ways to find my true self and allow the true self of others.

And as I now proceed to the end of another school year, I find myself mapping out my own mini-revolution to transform what has come before, bringing my true self to the learners in front of me. The need is there, more than ever, to bring my authentic spirit forward, and help young people find their true spirit as well. It's an on-going project, and a position I revolve back to every single year. It's as regular as spring.

Everything goes round and round as we seek to implement the dream.

I walk around the block, I walk around the slough, I walk around the lake, revolutions of inspiration and intensity, nature reflecting to me my natural self over and over again.

I have evolved to riding a stationary bike, round and round the wheel goes, building inner bravery, my mind spinning new directions, new poetic lines, new lessons to impart, new dreams not too late to dream.

Everything goes round and round as we seek to be free

of all the things that could hold us back

of all the things that seem to be stagnant and unproductive

to be free in our mind and spirit, mutable and mercurial

knocking down the fences that restrain.

 

 

 

Celebrating the UN-Deniable Third Act

 Response to Prompt #62

Celebrating the UN-Deniable Third Act

by Helen Sadler

Last spring I was having a hard time focusing on reading, so I found myself looking for the easiest possible text to keep my habit in play. I came across a book I had never fully read, one by a Florida college professor and mystery writer James W. Hall. It was recommended by Dr. Joe Wisdom when I was taking his Florida Writers class at FGCU. It’s called Hot Damn! Alligators in the Casino, Nude Women in the Grass, How Seashells Changed the Course of History, and Other Dispatches from Paradise and contains about 40 bite-sized essays.  I recently saw in one of my journals this book was given to me as a gift from Jim on my birthday in 2003, but it appears I had only read a handful of the essays. 

This was the perfect book to help me get back my reading mojo. The essays had the right amount of depth, but were short and sweet, like a little square of chocolate. I consumed a lot of them and then stopped when I was able to get back into longer literature.

On Sunday I saw the book sitting there and discovered I only had nine more essays to go, so vowed I would just get them done. And that is when everything changed.

Have you ever read something that was so profound, so perfect for the moment you were in you cannot believe it is happening? You get done and sit there quietly whispering Wow Wow Wow? It was one of those moments when I got to page 196 and completed reading the essay “Anniversary.”  The subject was the anniversary of the death of Hall’s father, whom he wrote about earlier in the collection. This was not the anniversary of the death of my father -- that wasn’t what struck me. It was the content.

Hall posits that we have three acts in life. Act One is being the young person on the threshold to adventure. Act Two contains all the struggles. Act Three is resolution. (Yes, you may recognize this cycle, as it is sometimes called the Hero’s Journey or Initiation.) It wasn’t that this was anything new to me. It was that for the first time I allowed myself to acknowledge just where I am standing.

Now it is Act Three. The time for resolutions. Tying up all the loose ends. The final third of this drama is the time when the wisdom collected on the journey so far must begin to pay off. If peace can be achieved, this is the last stretch of time to find it. If there is to be joy or understanding or enlightenment, they must come very soon. (195-6)

This caused me to think about my three acts, which are different from Hall’s: 

Act One -- when I got divorced at 25 and finally started living my life with purpose, pursued a new dream of being a business owner, began working with young people, and spent two years raising a troubled teenager.

Act Two -- Moving to Florida, getting three college degrees, becoming a teacher

Act Three -- present time, even though it looks like I’m still just being a teacher. Which was the baffling part.

Yes, Act Three was confusing. I’m still a teacher...right? My plan all along has been to keep going, keep doing the work I love. Yes, it seems a bit in jeopardy right now, but I was unwilling to make a move in my thinking.

In my puzzlement, I thought about my recent mudlarking journey, the one that now seems almost prophetic. There were things I rediscovered that I had not necessarily forgotten, but it was nice to find them and nail down their exactness. It has to do with my tendency to always see my life metaphorically as a book or an act of literature.

Case in point:

March 16, 1988.  I was frustrated with my job as a sales and service rep for Zee Medical because it lacked creativity. One morning I woke up and felt like I was “a blank page” on which I could write anything. A big part of that was to find a more creative way of working.  A couple months later I was on my way to California to train for the direct mail marketing franchise I had purchased. My creative work began.

December 22, 1997.  I was falling into depression and restlessness. I considered my age (42) had something to do with it. I went to the library and found a book called Listening to Midlife by Mark Gerzon. In the first chapter he described exactly how I was feeling. He said the anecdote was to see this time in life as entering Chapter Two, and the job now was to go back to what I loved as a teenager and see how I could develop that love in this second half of life. On that very day I discovered my long buried dream of being a teacher.

August 2, 2020. “Anniversary” pointed out clearly to me where I am right now. It helped explain why now it has seemed easy for me to clear out journals, folders from my college classes, and mountains of National Writing Project stuff I’ve never used. It’s aided me in releasing the unnecessary that I’ve let hang around too long.

But it was even more than that.

Hall’s essay focused on what he had learned from his father, and how this led him to understanding he was in Act Three. And that made me think about my dad in his 60s.

In my journal, I discovered my parents came to visit one weekend in the early 90s, and explained that my dad’s company (General Color) had decided to move him to a different position which meant quite a cut in pay. To Jim and me this was ageism, and we were furious. But my dad continued on, even bypassing his retirement age of 65 and kept working (to my mom’s dismay.) I used to think my dad didn’t have a role model for retiring, and that is why he wouldn’t make the move. He ended up dying at 68, working right up to the last few weeks of his life, and his pension set my mom up for a comfortable life as an elder.

But after reading “Anniversary,” I suddenly saw everything differently. My dad drew meaning from his work as a ceramic engineer -- a very specialized career -- and his side life as a musician. I now see what he was doing. He was living the life that meant something to him, and he knew that is what he must do.

I still recall the many young people from the plant that came to the funeral home, many with high praise for my dad. I remember one guy in particular, probably in his mid-20s, in jeans and a gray t-shirt with cut off sleeves, standing in front of my dad’s casket for the longest time, just staring with the saddest look on his face. To my knowledge, he didn’t talk to any of us, except perhaps my mom. I wanted so badly to ask him what my dad meant to him, because it was so obvious it was something. I didn’t have the nerve to disrupt whatever was going on in his head. I probably started talking to another guest, and by then he had disappeared. I have always felt that was one of the greatest missed opportunities in my life.

But what this told me was that my dad was having an influence on those around him, one I’m sure he felt fulfilling and wasn’t willing to give up.

When I think of my adult life, it breaks down like this:

20s -- the first half a royal mess, making unwise decisions because I didn’t know who I was, then awakening and starting to live as myself.

30s -- a time to prove myself during the first half, then entering into more spiritual studies later.

40s -- the beginning of a freeing feeling, no longer thinking I had to prove anything, went to college, moved to Florida

50s -- surprisingly wonderful. Still feeling like there was a lot of life to live, a lot of time to accomplish great things, fully in my element as I had my profession going strong

60s -- outlook more positive than ever. Feeling better physically than I have my entire life. (evidence in journals, constant remarks about headaches and stomachs, respiratory infections, etc.)  Truly my authentic self, still being creative, still wanting my profession to never end.

But then...the big changes of 2020. And turning 65, the age we are conditioned to think of as “retirement.” I’m supposed to want to end my previous life, and do...what? I don’t know.

I was pretty much ignoring this, until a couple things forced the issue. First, this damn pandemic and the vulnerability of my age and the facts of school buildings. I went from ignoring the idea of danger to understanding how real it was. Second, people who assume I can just “retire” because I'm 65-years-old.

Uh, no. 

And it isn’t just the money aspect.

Finally I can say, I get you, Dad.

And all of this may have just bypassed me, except then they pushed back the school year. My sister said, “Well, now you don’t have to work on your birthday.” I had gotten so used to working on my birthday, I hadn’t even realized I would have that day until Margie said it. In that space I started thinking of celebrating the day in a small way with Jim. We plan on getting out and doing something together since we have done nothing much beyond haircuts and Costco since January.

The triple gifts of time and space and “Anniversary” brought me to acknowledgment of Act Three. James Hall ends his essay in this way:

The curtain has gone up. One third of the play is left, a final chance to transform ourselves into individuals worthy of the parents we lost. (196)

I have not changed my mind about teaching until I can’t teach anymore. What has changed is my understanding of my purpose. I think of those young men in Minerva, Ohio celebrating my dad and what a kind and knowledgeable soul he was. It made me realize I have just so much time left to make my life fully worthy of my dad and all he meant to everyone who knew him.

The most wonderful part about all of this is that all the fear I have had for months about the upcoming school year is completely gone. I now know, and am 100 percent sure, that whatever happens it will provide me with what I need to complete my life in a way worthy of my upbringing. As my journal project showed me, I have not always made the best decisions, and I often operated from a place of fear. 

But not anymore.

When Natalie posted this prompt, she referred to the film Alice in Wonderland. As if “Anniversary” wasn’t enough on Sunday to move me to fearlessness, I read this on Monday morning:

Just fall, like Alice, down the rabbit hole. And don’t worry about falling down; it’s also topless, sideless, and centerless. Fear not. Centuries of saints and bodhisattvas who’ve gone before have shouted loud and clear. Jump right in, the water’s fine (161)

*(The Zen Commandments: Ten Suggestions for a Life of Inner Freedom (2001) by Dean Sluyter.)

Invitation to Write #2 - Ch-Ch-Changes

by Annmarie Ferry

July 15, 2015

In the words of David Bowie, it's time to "turn and face the strange ch-ch-changes," like it or not.

The ebb and flow of life isn't always so fluid; it often seems like crashing waves threaten to drown us. Just when we think we won't make it to the surface to gasp another breath, the seas turn into a motionless, glass-like calm that allows us to glide to shore.

"I watch the ripples change their size
  But never leave the stream
  Of warm impermanence and
  So the days float through my eyes."

Think about how you generally respond to or react to changes, big and small.  Does a "strange fascination" take over or is it more like a crippling fear?

This month, write about change. Anything about change. It doesn't have to be yours; it doesn't have to  be a big event. Sometimes, those "minor" changes add up over a stretch of time.  Your response can be in any form -- a personal narrative, fictional short story, poem, song lyrics, artwork.